my babe... my bestfriend

After having these fears for a while before he moved in I'm happy to say they were just like monsters under the bed.  Very horrifying and so real and later you learn that there are no monsters under the bed or in my case everything goes mostly peachy!  5 months after he moved in most of my fears of the long distance going to live in relationship have disappeared!

99% of the time we are laughing or enjoying each others company and silliness!  Ever since we started dating we've had comments on how strange our relationship is, but that's what makes it special and us such a good fit for each other!

Our relationship is pretty much how I remembered it to be in person/what I was expecting.

Surprisingly, he is really enjoying Houston, and Texas in general.  It has so many novelties that a boy from Honolulu never got to experience!

And he enjoys time alone, especially with the TV without me complaining about his love of redneck shows.  So it works out nicely, I have time for the gym and my girlfriends and he has his time to do whatever he wants.  I think our time apart really built our trust and respect of our alone time.  Don't get me wrong of course we still treasure out time together :)

fears... what if?

So when it was looking like it was final that he was moving here.  I was over joyed! But than these thoughts creeped into my head... what... what if....

I survived a loooong long distance relationship! now what? what if it fails now???

What if he isn't who I remembered him to be?  Did I completely romanticize this?  Is he just prince charming in my head but a jerk in real life?

What if we hate living together??

Since he's giving up his job, family, Hawaii, everything he's ever known his entire life to move here for me, what if he hates it and resents me?


What if I hate my life when he's here? I'm a party girl, I love the club, he doesn't!  What if I loose myself and don't go out anymore! What if I loose my girlfriends?   Is this really want I want?  I love my life as is... but do really miss him.  Can I find a balance?

I'm also a traveler!  What if I can't just pick up and go during winter or summer break because he has a real job?  It would be pretty messed up on my behalf if he moves here for me, and I leave him here alone for a month!

our first homecomming together

This may be a tad bit out of order. I have been journaling everything since the decision was made that he is going to move here for sure, but I didn't decide to actually post it online until a few days ago.

We came home vising my family for Christmas in New Jersey.  It was a great trip, but pretty exhausting.   Our flight landed late at night and I just wanted to pass out!  I travel pretty regularly and have a great routine.  Come home, stretch out across my comply queen size bed, enjoy my fuzzy blanket, my abundance of pillows, and just being in my bed.  I deal with unpacking the next day.  My boyfriend had another idea.  Unpack! ughhh I was so tired.  I just went to bed, well tried.  We got in a minor fight and than we both got in bed.  I was so annoyed with him.  Everything he said was like nails on a chalkboard! Normally I'm pretty go with the flow, but with things like unpacking my motto is "why do today, what can be done tomorrow" and his is quite the contrary!  I wished so hard to be in a long distance relationship once again.  When he annoyed me I could just hang up.  End of story, no more drama or stress.  This was the first time since he got here, i wished he wasn't here.  How do you go to sleep next to someone you can't stand? I guess some things are harder to adjust to then others, hopefully our next travel will have a smoother home coming. 

I woke wondering wondering why this was such a big deal?  How could I wish he wasn't here over something so stupid?  I've sent all this time with my only desire being for him to be with me.  Sometimes I confuse myself, but I can't help how I feel/felt.


Upon some contemplation of why this bothered me so much, I guess with all of the traumatic airport goodbyes I had to find something to look forward to... and that is my amazing bed!


Has anyone else had experiences like this?

Backgroud

My boyfriend and I were college sweethearts.  We started dating spring semester of  our freshman year and have been together ever since.  We started doing short spurts of  long distance starting about 2 months into dating, since college was in Hawaii, where he was born and raised, and I was from New Jersey! So every summer and winter break I would go home and he would stay in sunny Hawaii.  After graduation I went home to help around the house and than moved for snowboarding season to Colorado!  Once again he stayed in Hawaii.  I came back after the season, but shortly after we were together again I got accepted into grad school in Houston.  And he was getting his MBA in, you guessed it, Hawaii.  We came to an agreement early on to live out lives to the fullest and put education first.  So this meant we were going to be in a real long distance relationship.  It was hard, but we made it though, and actually got really comfortable with it.  After he finished his MBA he packed up and moved to Houston with me.  This blog will be about the fears/joys/transition of going from a long-distance relationship to a live in relationship.  I kept a journal of this, not sure if I was going to go public, but figured maybe it could help others in the same situation and people could help me with the process!  Feel free to share your stories with me and leave comments :)